On War and Marriage, The Master’s Plan by Liz Giertz

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On War and Marriage

by: Liz Giertz

In February of 2003, my then fiancé and I deployed to Kuwait in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom. About 3 months later we moved north following the invasion and spent 9 more months at Camp Balad, Iraq, providing logistical support to the war-fighters.

When Marriage Gets Messy is an 11-week workbook for wives who want to model their marriage on the Master’s plan rather than a war and marriage battle plan.

I used to joke that my husband had seen me at my absolute worst after a yearlong combat tour in the hot and dusty Asian desert where I often went a couple weeks without a shower, and he married me anyway. I think we assumed marriage would be smooth sailing after that.

But we were wrong.

As unattractive (and smelly) as I must have been covered in several layers of sand and grime, toting a rifle, wearing full combat gear, under intense and constant stress, with very little sleep, I wasn’t prepared for the ugliness sharing a home and making a family with someone I loved dearly would uncover in my heart. War and marriage intertwined revealing:

A deep-seeded desire to win.
The tendency to withhold sex as a retaliatory weapon.
Harsh remarks launched like missiles.
An inability to communicate effectively under tense circumstances.
Anger, selfishness, laziness, revenge.

Yet God uses it as a picture of His relationship to us, His covenantal and undying love for us, His sacrifice to have us. The Church is often referred to as the bride of Christ, but marriage is more than just a parable, it is a tool God uses to sanctify and prepare us for when the Bridegroom returns. So, when marriages fail, our perceptions of God’s commitment to us are tainted. And that is when Satan gets a foothold in our hearts.

When we treat our marriages like armed conflicts, we’re losing the spiritual warfare our real enemy wages against us. But there is help and hope. According to God’s design, we never fight alone. He is with us in every skirmish and battle. He is the ally Who makes us victorious.

Too often, though, we suffer in silence and shame.

Why are we so afraid to admit that marriage is messy? Christians, maybe more than anyone else, ought to understand the implications of putting two sinners under one roof. Instead, we seem to think that if our marriage is under attack it means we’ve done something wrong or fallen out of God’s favor, but that is just another terrible tactic Satan uses to keep us afraid and isolated, feeling cut off from those ready to stand up for us.

There is a better way. When we are willing to follow His battle plan, God is able to make peace where there’s been war, and create masterpieces from our messes.

Liz’s recent book, When Marriage Gets Messy, addresses 10 common messes married couples make and walks wives through biblically-based strategies to defeat the enemy’s attacks. In an 11-week workbook format, it provides daily prayer, study, and practical exercises to help you hone your heart for your husband according to God’s design. It is great for individual or small group study for both newlyweds and those who already have decades of marital service under their belts.

So, won’t you join me and Liz as we all lock arms to become a generation of women battling together against Satan’s attack on our marriages—wives willing to fight for our marriages?

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Meet Liz

When Marriage Gets Messy is an 11-week workbook for wives who want to model their marriage on the Master’s plan rather than a war and marriage battle plan.

Liz Giertz is an Army Veteran who traded her M-16 and combat boots for a craft apron and a glue gun. After nearly 10 years of active duty service, she is now an Army wife and mom to two boisterous boys. Until her husband’s next assignment, they call Hurricane, WV, home. She is passionate about gathering women around her craft table, affectionately referred to as “My Messy Desk,” to create a community, encouraging them to overcome MESSES, and embrace their MEMORIES as they become the MASTERPIECES God created them to be.

She would love to connect with you. When she isn’t crafting or writing, you can find her:
*on her blog, My Messy Desk
*on Facebook
*on Twitter
*on Instagram
*on Pinterest

You can also find a selection of her hand-crafted items in her Etsy shop.

When Marriage Gets Messy is an 11-week workbook for wives who want to model their marriage on the Master’s plan rather than a war and marriage battle plan.

Her debut book, When Marriage Gets Messy: Overcoming 10 Common Messes Married Couples Make, is an 11-week workbook for wives who want to model their marriage after the Master’s plan (rather than a war and marriage battle plan!).

Get your copy of When Marriage Gets Messy: Overcoming 10 Common Messes Married Couples Make on Amazon or Barnes and Noble – today.

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22 thoughts on “On War and Marriage, The Master’s Plan by Liz Giertz

  1. Thank you for your service to our country. I can’t imagine being in a hot desert or in any military role. It takes special people to serve our country. I believe you still do in the raising of your young boys and supporting your husband’s military career. I really enjoyed your story today and will be praying for you.

  2. Thank you for sharing your article on Oh My Heartsie Girls WW Linkup, I have pinned to share your article and this week it is being featured on our party this week!
    Be sure to stop by and share again!! Wishing you a great week!

  3. Liz, your angle to be able to speak on this topic is awesome! It is so easy to see our husbands as the enemy, and I must confess this is something I struggled with early on also, and it’s still an easy place to go if I’m not aware. When we come from difficult circumstances, it is easy to transfer those same thought patterns and emotions onto our husbands, and recognizing that Satan is the true enemy makes a way for grace and compassion where our humanity would not otherwise offer this freely. Your book sounds like a wonderful marriage mentoring tool!

    1. So, true! It is a HUGE mental shift…one that enables us to see our struggles for what they truly are! Thanks for your encouraging comments! I pray God will use the workbook in a mighty way to encourage wives with His help and hope! Blessings!

  4. Thanks for sharing these truths, Liz. We should apply these to so many areas of our lives! –> “According to God’s design, we never fight alone. He is with us in every skirmish and battle. He is the ally Who makes us victorious.”

    1. Absolutely! God calls us to love all our neighbors and there are some great truths here for doing that! So thankful He enables me to love others even when I’m resistant! Blessings!

    1. Thank you! Praying God will use the workbooks in a mighty way to bring help and hope to wives and restore marriages! Blessings!

    1. Thank you, Stacey! It’s an honor to share what God has done in my heart and my marriage here in Susan’s corner of the web! Blessings!

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