Who are you, Jeff Goins asked in an email recently. My heart and head wrapped around that question in an unanticipated way. My friends must read his words, they are so powerful, I thought. So I asked Jeff if I could share with you. Oh my goodness, he said yes!
This post is a copy of his email. I pray it grabs your heart and moves you into action to help you truly know who you are. Thank you Jeff for the words that follow.
We are going to do something kind of risky for the month of December (although we’re starting a little early today).
Recently, I challenged myself to write and share one new thing every single day. I’ve been doing this for about 15 days and loving it!
For the next few weeks (up until Christmas), I want to continue that process by sharing with you 10 lessons I’ve learned about life and goals and doing work that matters.
I hope it helps you set better goals and resolutions for next year, as well as encourages you to be grateful for the year you’ve just completed.
So, let’s begin.
Lesson 1: Find Your “Who”
Recently, there’s been a lot of talk about finding your “why” thanks to the efforts of the very smart Simon Sinek. But in my experience, that’s not the first question you should ask.
If you’re trying to live a life of purpose and meaning, the first thing to ask is not “why” or even “what” but “who.”
Do you know who you are?
I mean, really know? Most people don’t.
There’s a reason this is the theme of all great stories from Star Wars to The Lion King to Harry Potter to Moana.
We are lost and we know it.
The trappist monk Thomas Merton calls this your “true self.” So many of us hide behind the false selves of achievement and status, because we are afraid for the world to truly see us for who we are. People might not like us, after all.
Once you know you who you are, you will know what to do.
Activity follows identify, as I like to say. I learned this relatively early in my life when a friend asked what my dream was and I said I didn’t know.
He said he thought I would have said “be a writer.” As soon as he said that, my heart leapt, and I knew that’s what I wanted but was just too afraid to admit. I guess I did want to be a writer, I admitted. But that would never happen.
My friend looked me in the eye and said, “Jeff, you are a writer. You just need to write.”
The next day, I started writing and never looked back. That one conversation changed my life. Not because those words were magical or anything, but because I was waiting to find out who I was before I knew what I was supposed to do with my life.
Maybe you can relate.
Right now, there is a gap between your true self and your false self, between your soul and your sole, and it’s up to you to fill it.
This is true for all of us, by the way, myself included. We are all — hopefully — becoming truer versions of ourselves, those selves that step into the light and do not hide from who we really are.
But to do this well, you need insight. You need a way to recognize your blindspots. Because we as human beings are really terrible at self-awareness, and so we need the voices of others to point out what we’re missing.
Every year, I reflect on what I’ve done with my time and how it complements or conflicts with the things that I say are important to me.
- Do I call myself a writer but do very little writing?
- Do I say family is first but often come home late at the end of the day?
- Do I think of myself as intelligent and creative but give myself very little time to think and play?
And it is the mission of our life to bridge the two. We must be whole, integrated people.
And finding our “who” — that true self we were meant to be — begins with understanding who we are right now, good or bad, warts and all.
So, I dare you to do this one small thing I do every year:
Take a quick assessment that forces you to grade yourself on your life.
Are you like George Bailey and secretly living a wonderful life?
Or are you like Walter Mitty and you’re missing out on the adventure just beyond your comfort zone?
This free assessment will tell you.
Click here to check it out.
P.S. This may be one of the most important messages and ideas in my life: this idea that you have a true self and you need to find it. I’m so passionate about this topic that I wrote a book on it.
I am often asking “is this really me?” and I hope you ask yourself that, too. It really matters, I think. If you take the assessment and learn something, please let me know by sending me (Jeff) an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’d love to hear from you.
Thank you, Jeff Goins, for allowing me to share here. I pray this is meant for someone to find out who they are. My objective it to guide people to Whose they are. Why? God desires His sons and daughters intimately know who they are in Him and His purpose for them. That’s why. And His answer to who you are is the best answer to that question.
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16 thoughts on “Who are You Jeff Goins Asks”
Interesting. I’m off to take the assessment now. Thanks, Susan! #heartencouragementThursday
I read this one too, Susan. Smashing! This book along with his others have been stepping stones in my life. Thanks!
Interesting to ponder. Thanks for sharing Jeff’s email. Blessings to you!
This was wonderful and so true! I think I am going to have to check out this book! Thanks for the post and for the linkup! 🙂
Really interesting. The “who” part is something that I have been really getting better at figuring out lately.
Thanks for hosting and have a wonderful week.
This! It’s my theme when teaching my teenage students – your job, as a teenager, is to figure who you ARE, and the rest will fall into place! Who you are, then who you want to be. Love this, Jeff Goines!
Great thoughts! This seems to be a theme that keeps popping up in my reading lately … hmmm. Thanks for sharing Jeff’s email.
I’ve let some things set me back on my writing and these words have helped me. Thank you!
I hope your final week of November was fantastic!
Love Jeff Goins and LOVE his book! Good words here. 🙂
Yes, great thoughts! I hope we can all become a truer version of ourselves.
Wow, this is a good word for writers. We need to write from who we are with genuineness.
Good stuff, Susan. Love Jeff’s thought, “Once you know you who you are, you will know what to do.” So true. Thanks for sharing this article. It’s a fresh, new word for writers or anyone. 🙂
Thanks so much for sharing, Susan. I read The Art of Work two years ago, and it was a great resource. Uncovering our true selves, in light of Christ’s illuminating presence, is a gateway to great fulfillment and purpose. These are important concepts!
“We’re lost and we know it.” Too bad we don’t always want to admit it. And even when we do, we don’t look in the right places to find who we are!
I’m a big fan of Jeff Goins. I’ve been following him ever since I started blogging. He’s a great resource. I must have missed this one in my email. It’s a little full these days ;). Thanks so much for sharing and for this space to gather this morning, Susan!
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