Lost. Totally lost. Have you ever lost something dear to you and thought I’ve got to find this followed by just show up, please?
You look high and low – then look again, retracing every step and picking up every piece of paper in your path. Yet you are disappointed, distraught and even disgusted with yourself (or whomever!) for losing that precious thing in the first place.
Yea, me too.
My husband’s wedding ring seemed to be missing – again. Not the first time this year, but the second time, his wedding band was MIA. We are wedded, yet I was deeply wounded by this loss. A gulf emerged, separating the two of us.
Anger, hurt, and dismay warred within me. He remembers his watch, yet forgets ME echoed in my head. Silly, I know, yet in my mind, when he removes his wedding ring it seems to distance his heart from mine too.
Anybody else dealt with similar thoughts and feelings, for whatever reason?
Was I out of my mind to think like this? Holt loves me – and was distraught at the loss – his loss. With so much emotion at play, I had to decide to walk in wisdom.
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Would I wind up words, hurl them, hurt him-& our marriage–over a thing–his ring?
Finish reading the feature article for today at Tiffany Montgomery’s Reclaiming Hope and Joy in Your Marriage Series.
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Thank you for all those tips and sharing, Susan.. Mine is 13 years old and counting. May God bless us all
Here’s to many more anniversaries, Indah! Hugs, Susan
It’s all about our thinking and how we process things, isn’t it! We’re more affected by what we think about something than the event or circumstance itself. Thanks for sharing and hosting. Have a great week!
What’s with husband’s losing their rings? We’re on our 3rd ring here 🙂
Great post!
So many, many times God has helped me to find something lost, whether that be an actual item or a loss in a relationship. He is so good!
Amen. It’s amazing to me when I ask God help me find…and there it is!
My friend lost his wedding ring and it still upsets him seven years later – but their marriage? As solid as The Rock it is built upon!!!
Awesome! I was surprised how it rattled me! Initially…then I put Jesus into the equation. That changes everything, doesn’t it?!
Susan, I loved your post. I was your neighbour at Arabah Joy’s site so I got to see it twice 🙂 Praying you have a blessed weekend with rest to rejuvenate your spirit, soul and body!
~Sherry Stahl
xoxo
Awww. Thank you Sherry!
I’ve been there friend! It’s funny how we put so much weight in a symbol. Choosing trust over feelings is a big decision, and I believe it is one God honors.
It also helps when the ring is found 😉
Oh Becky, so you “get it” how that whacked me until I put Jesus into the middle of my feelings. He had to remind me what’s important. Thank God He does that huh?!